June 19th, Trying to Talk to the Boys...

Ok so, I called at 6:02, left message. I called at 6:32, left message. I called at 7:00pm, left message. I called at 7:33pm, left message. At 7:39pm he called back.

I was very excited and relieved to hear the kids voices again. After talking to them my ex husband got on the phone and I questioned him if he had found a therapist for our oldest. He said no because he had not heard back from the therapist. I said well I forgot to give you the letter where she is stating he needs therapy while you have him. And he says well it says in the papers if his therapist deems it necessary he should have therapy. I explain again that it what I just said and that is what the letter is about. He told me he wouldn't set up a therapist for him until he heard from our sons therapist. I explained that I had contacted DCF and explained to them the situation and they said if you don't get our oldest in therapy that they would take him out of the house for child neglect and bring him back to me. My ex husband says, he doesn't have marks on him. I said neglect, not abuse. I told him I would be mailing the letter on Monday and that I will give him a few weeks to set things up and if he hasn't done anything then I would contact DCF again. Then he hung up the phone.

Little secret here. My sons therapist doesn't want to talk to him because she believes it would be very unproductive. She doesn't like how demanding and threatening he is. She said he just needs to contact medical records to get the information he is looking for. Pretty bad when not only her, but two other doctors and the school don't want to deal with him. As he told me on the phone last Sunday "everyone is in contempt, I should just take them all to court!" and then he wonders why no one wants to talk with him. Can't talk to someone who is irrational, uncivil and who won't listen to reason.

I was thinking about getting a kids prepaid cell phone for my oldest who will be 7 next time we have visitation. I figure I can contact him directly and leave out the middle man who is controlling. I'm sure though I will get "it's not in the court papers, it's not a designated number, you can't call him directly". Honestly I feel like I live in a prison why does this all have to be so difficult? It's simple, I provide my oldest son with a cell phone funded by me I should be able to do that, right? He's my kid too!