Ok, so it wasn't long after the divorce papers were finalized that we ran into our first glitch. Thanks Florida for having the vaguest court documents that you could possible write up!
It was written up that my ex husband had a reintroduction period since it had been almost two years since he had last seen the kids. The idea of this was to get the kids to be familiar with their father in their environment and have a smooth transition into my ex husband having them for the entire summer. I wasn't happy having them gone for 10 weeks but well, I will live with it.
It says in the divorce papers: "The Respondent (me) requests a one-time transition time-sharing period, so that the children get can re-acquainted with the Petitioner (him)". "It is therefore RECOMMENDED that the Petitioner (him) shall spend three to four days in Fort Wayne, IN with the children prior to the regular time-sharing schedule taking effect. The parties are to set up a mutually convenient time period, preferably before June 1, 2010, so that regular time-sharing may commence summer 2010".
Now, a whole lot of Fort Wayne Police got involved and all of them said that it means my ex husband can have them for the 1st day supervised and then the rest of the time he can have them alone unsupervised. I felt and was lead to believe by the two officers that came to my house if I didn't let him have the children I would be in contempt of court and they would come and arrest me. I was bullied into handing my kids over to him. That was not the plan or the deal we had. I have way too many emails regarding this situation to post but if anyone wants to see them I can show you. We were both suppose to come together and pick a mutual time. Instead he came to me told me when he would be here at what times and it didn't work for me and he didn't care that was what he was going to do. Nothing was mutual, as always I got told by him what to do and if I don't do it I get the cops called on me.
The three days we had were horrible. He brought the kids back late the second night by 50 minutes and the third and final night I didn't get them until midnight. I sat at the police station from 8pm when he was suppose to bring them back until 11pm when I was told to go home because he was going to keep the kids over night and I would get them back sometime the next day. He never told me anything he was doing, he finally called me around 9-10 telling me he had the kids and they were ok and he would bring them back when he was done. I said done with what? I have to say I've been disgusted by how Florida has treated my divorce but I'm even more appalled at how Fort Wayne, Indiana treats people like me in these situations.
Whatever my oldest son has was exacerbated during the events of the past three days. I mean he hasn't seen daddy in almost two years and now he sees him and he's being subjected to law enforcement and their officers every day. He told me that the last two nights he had a dream about a police officer shooting him in the face and they put it back together and it hurt. Then he yells out "ah cops!" and I was like "what did he just say?" about his dreams and confused about what he just yelled and sure enough there were cops at my front door. They were called because I didn't answer the phone and he wanted to do a wellness check on the kids. It's funny how in the last two years I had to email him begging him to call and he never did and now all of the sudden if he doesn't hear from the kids every day he calls the cops on me.
It took almost two weeks to get things back to normal for the kids. Luckily the youngest two weren't too affected, they don't remember their father and they're still young. I just feel bad for my oldest. I had to take him to Parkview Behavior Health for an evaluation and they wrote up an emergency referral to his therapist at Park Center.
I have to say anything that could go wrong did and I had a feeling it wasn't going to turn out well but I had no clue it was going to be this bad!
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