Divorce! Exciting for some horrible for others. I've know a few people who've been through it and some were nasty and others were amicable. Lets just say I was very excited when I got serviced my papers but during the proceedings I wasn't excited anymore. I wanted to file but couldn't until I had lived in Indiana for 6 months.
When I got my papers my husband stated how he would pay child support, great! He would let me have the children, great! He wasn't arguing over assets or debts, great! So I just let it be and waited for the first court hearing with the magistrate, that wasn't great. I messed up big time! I never contacted the courts telling them that I was or wasn't ok with what was stated in the papers and I defaulted which is not a good position to be in. It was only the beginning and it went from me being excited going through the divorce to I just want to be divorced NOW!
This is my first marriage and divorce so I had no clue what was about to happen. The first hearing we had child support was not brought up so I brought it up and was told since I was in default I couldn't say anything and no child support was set. I wasn't sure how they could do that or even get away with it. The next hearing went a little different, my husband wanted full custody now and I wanted child support. I had an attorney and he filed for temporary child support and it was granted. $450 a month for three children, but it was more than I was getting before which was nothing. I finally got a check for $300 and then about 5 months later got another $300, and then a few days before the final hearing he paid $1,000, that's all I got in 9 months. It's now $471 a month which is based off of him making minimum wage when he's self employed and told the magistrate and my attorney at questioning that he makes $20-$40 an hour when he is working. I'm very confused about all of that and how he can state what he makes without them verifying the information. I'm sure we can all guess here that he is hiding money and lying about his true income and Florida and our magistrate just let him and I'm sure several others get away with it.
The next hearing we had was mediation. I really wanted to end it at mediation but 5 hours in to it while we took a break he called his fiance Kristen and he came back saying he wasn't happy with it and wanted to stop. I was so upset because I really wanted to be done all ready. I wasn't sure why he was drawing this whole thing out so damn long. We then went back for a 3rd time to meet with the magistrate and she ordered a final hearing on April of 2010. Well ironic timing because the date she picked was the exact date my oldest son's Doctor scheduled him to meet with a neuropsychologist to have an evaluation done on him for possible autism and being delayed. I explained to her how he had this appointment and she told me to reschedule it I was very pissed. There is something wrong with my son and I would like to find out sooner than later so he can receive treatment and here again Florida didn't care. I rescheduled and had to wait another month.
Now it's the final hearing and my husband and I were suppose to come together with a parenting plan. My attorney and I didn't have one because my husband never got in touch with us, but he made his own. Not surprising because he likes to do whatever he wants to do and doesn't care about anyone else. At the end of the hearing she wrote up a parenting plan and finalized some loose ends in the divorce papers and said we had 10 days to disagree. Well can you guess what happened next? He disagreed! I was fine with it because like I keep saying I just wanted to be divorced all ready and it seemed he wanted to drag this on forever. I mean if you had been engaged for almost a year now and wanted to marry this so called love of your life wouldn't you just hurry it up and get the divorce? I would.
As of May 2010 we are no longer married and you would think that the sun should be coming up but it hasn't. He continues to harass and threaten me with these papers and child support every moment he gets and I'm sick and tired of it. I feel helpless and hopeless about moving forward with my first wife title and concentrating on myself and the kids. He makes this practically impossible with the constant emails and texts.
Now that I have laid out the history and foundation of my story the majority of the blogs in the future with consist of his emails and what happens. I really want my story to be told and to share what he does so people can read what he says. He's so good about getting to the courts, child support and law enforcement before I know what he's doing but this time I'm just getting to the people.
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