Ok so, I called at 6:02, left message. I called at 6:32, left message. I called at 7:00pm, left message. I called at 7:33pm, left message. At 7:39pm he called back.
I was very excited and relieved to hear the kids voices again. After talking to them my ex husband got on the phone and I questioned him if he had found a therapist for our oldest. He said no because he had not heard back from the therapist. I said well I forgot to give you the letter where she is stating he needs therapy while you have him. And he says well it says in the papers if his therapist deems it necessary he should have therapy. I explain again that it what I just said and that is what the letter is about. He told me he wouldn't set up a therapist for him until he heard from our sons therapist. I explained that I had contacted DCF and explained to them the situation and they said if you don't get our oldest in therapy that they would take him out of the house for child neglect and bring him back to me. My ex husband says, he doesn't have marks on him. I said neglect, not abuse. I told him I would be mailing the letter on Monday and that I will give him a few weeks to set things up and if he hasn't done anything then I would contact DCF again. Then he hung up the phone.
Little secret here. My sons therapist doesn't want to talk to him because she believes it would be very unproductive. She doesn't like how demanding and threatening he is. She said he just needs to contact medical records to get the information he is looking for. Pretty bad when not only her, but two other doctors and the school don't want to deal with him. As he told me on the phone last Sunday "everyone is in contempt, I should just take them all to court!" and then he wonders why no one wants to talk with him. Can't talk to someone who is irrational, uncivil and who won't listen to reason.
I was thinking about getting a kids prepaid cell phone for my oldest who will be 7 next time we have visitation. I figure I can contact him directly and leave out the middle man who is controlling. I'm sure though I will get "it's not in the court papers, it's not a designated number, you can't call him directly". Honestly I feel like I live in a prison why does this all have to be so difficult? It's simple, I provide my oldest son with a cell phone funded by me I should be able to do that, right? He's my kid too!
Saturday, June 19, 2010
June 18th, Trying to Talk to the Boys...
I called 6:04pm, left message. 6:33pm, left message. I went to call again around 7pm and noticed a missed call from him at 6:55pm. I was excited! It didn't last long though.
I called back and heard something along the lines of "this call is being recorded" from automated woman's voice. I go "what was that? is this call being recorded?" he said "yes, I record all of my phone calls". It was the first time I had heard that and I told him several times I don't consent to this phone call being recorded and he said it didn't matter because he told me ahead of time it was being recorded. I said well I don't consent to it because in the papers it says these phone calls are not to be monitored. He said "they're not, they're being recorded". Seriously he's driving me nuts. So I guess he can do whatever he wants and he makes sure I don't. I had to deal with it otherwise I wouldn't be able to talk to the kids.
So he began to talk "Before you talk to the boys I have a few questions to ask you first". I'm thinking great, I just want to talk to them now, hear their voices and then I'll talk to you. "Why did you pack only a few outfits and some were either too small or too big? The clothes smelled of cigarette smoke I don't like people smoking around my children. The boys were dirty, why were they so dirty?" I explained he got what he got because I had 30 minutes to get things together and my mind was all over the place. They were dirty because they were playing in the fenced yard at my moms house. Then we get in to the fact how I need to have my own phone that in the court papers it states how I am responsible for my own communication. Well I am I'm borrowing a phone from someone that I live with. I was told that in the future I could not talk to the boys until I got my own phone and phone number. How is that right? It doesn't make sense to me? Really, come up with something better to keep me from talking to them.
I did talk to them, it was comfort to a mothers ears. I miss them dearly and in 58 days I get to have them back. Needless to say my attorney is now involved again. I'm trying to get my ducks in a row so I can fix this whole mess with the phone calls, visitation and child support. If my ex husband would let the past go and stop being so spiteful this would be so much easier on everyone involved especially the kids. Problem is, I live in a state where law enforcement can interpret and enforce court documents and he lives in a state where they don't get involved in civil matters. I feel like a 4 year old when I say, "it's not fair!"
I called back and heard something along the lines of "this call is being recorded" from automated woman's voice. I go "what was that? is this call being recorded?" he said "yes, I record all of my phone calls". It was the first time I had heard that and I told him several times I don't consent to this phone call being recorded and he said it didn't matter because he told me ahead of time it was being recorded. I said well I don't consent to it because in the papers it says these phone calls are not to be monitored. He said "they're not, they're being recorded". Seriously he's driving me nuts. So I guess he can do whatever he wants and he makes sure I don't. I had to deal with it otherwise I wouldn't be able to talk to the kids.
So he began to talk "Before you talk to the boys I have a few questions to ask you first". I'm thinking great, I just want to talk to them now, hear their voices and then I'll talk to you. "Why did you pack only a few outfits and some were either too small or too big? The clothes smelled of cigarette smoke I don't like people smoking around my children. The boys were dirty, why were they so dirty?" I explained he got what he got because I had 30 minutes to get things together and my mind was all over the place. They were dirty because they were playing in the fenced yard at my moms house. Then we get in to the fact how I need to have my own phone that in the court papers it states how I am responsible for my own communication. Well I am I'm borrowing a phone from someone that I live with. I was told that in the future I could not talk to the boys until I got my own phone and phone number. How is that right? It doesn't make sense to me? Really, come up with something better to keep me from talking to them.
I did talk to them, it was comfort to a mothers ears. I miss them dearly and in 58 days I get to have them back. Needless to say my attorney is now involved again. I'm trying to get my ducks in a row so I can fix this whole mess with the phone calls, visitation and child support. If my ex husband would let the past go and stop being so spiteful this would be so much easier on everyone involved especially the kids. Problem is, I live in a state where law enforcement can interpret and enforce court documents and he lives in a state where they don't get involved in civil matters. I feel like a 4 year old when I say, "it's not fair!"
June 17th, Trying to Talk to the Boys...
I never got to talk to the boys like I am suppose to. Court papers state everyday between the hours of 6pm and 8pm. I was very concerned and worried. I was wondering if they every made it back to Florida. I was worrying how the boys were taking all of this, it was the first time ever they had been away from me.
I called:
6:01pm, left message
6:33pm, left message
7:03pm, left message
7:30pm, no message left
7:32pm, left message
I called:
6:01pm, left message
6:33pm, left message
7:03pm, left message
7:30pm, no message left
7:32pm, left message
He Came All the Way Up...
It's taken me while to regain my composure to be able to write. Since Wednesday June the 16th my world has been turned upside down. I never met half way in Tennessee because he was not current on his child support. However, after he spoke with our oldest son he told me that his daddy was not coming and he was heading back to Georgia. Then a few seconds later I get two texts saying for me to look up a cheap flight from Atlanta that he would fly out of there and be in Indiana tomorrow. Lies, lies, lies and he involved his son in it which makes me sick.
I decided to head over to my moms house for dinner and around 9:15pm there is a knock on my moms screen door and her boyfriend went to answer it, I followed behind and it was an officer. I have no clue how they found out where my mom lives. Her phone started blowing up because they went to my uncles house looking for me and after getting the police report they were headed to my 89 year old grandmas house. Outrageous! They were saying we were hiding the kids and keeping the kids from my ex husband. I was offended. If I were hiding I'd go to a place where no one could find me. My moms front door and all of her windows were open for anyone to see and hear and yet we were being accused of hiding the children. The Fort Wayne Police told my mother and I if they could prove we were hiding the children we would get arrested.
I tried to beg and plead saying I had an email from my ex husband allowing me to exchange the children on the 19th so our oldest could have his neurological testing done on the 18th. I was shot down. I asked "well what if I don't hand over the kids until after his testing on Friday" and he told me "then I would arrest you right now". So basically my ex husband can go around lying to me about what I can do and then I proceed with that and then throws these papers up in my face along with the constant cop calling. My oldest son cried when we left my moms house, I had never seen him act like that before. I had to beg to let them ride with me to our house because my ex husband wanted to take them now. We needed to go back so we could get their things.
We were followed by the police and I had 30 minutes to get them packed and ready to go. I was frantic, running around, trying to remember everything 3 little boys needed. I forgot a ton of stuff. Despite what everyone may say I was not, I repeat was not wanting my ex husband to not have the kids for the summer. I just wanted my oldest son to have his testing. I had to reschedule for August 18th.
It was very hard for me to say goodbye. My oldest started crying again, I had never seen him act like that. My youngest stayed at the edge of the steps, he didn't want to leave. After they were gone an officer stayed to talk to us and I thought it was because he was being nice, but after reading the report it was because my ex husband requested a police escort to I69 and the officer that stayed with us was to make sure we didn't leave after them. Seriously, what do these people think I'm capable of? I have never been arrested, or have had any kind of ticket. My background is in the medical field where I help people recover from surgeries etc. I am not a criminal! Why am I being treated like one?
I decided to head over to my moms house for dinner and around 9:15pm there is a knock on my moms screen door and her boyfriend went to answer it, I followed behind and it was an officer. I have no clue how they found out where my mom lives. Her phone started blowing up because they went to my uncles house looking for me and after getting the police report they were headed to my 89 year old grandmas house. Outrageous! They were saying we were hiding the kids and keeping the kids from my ex husband. I was offended. If I were hiding I'd go to a place where no one could find me. My moms front door and all of her windows were open for anyone to see and hear and yet we were being accused of hiding the children. The Fort Wayne Police told my mother and I if they could prove we were hiding the children we would get arrested.
I tried to beg and plead saying I had an email from my ex husband allowing me to exchange the children on the 19th so our oldest could have his neurological testing done on the 18th. I was shot down. I asked "well what if I don't hand over the kids until after his testing on Friday" and he told me "then I would arrest you right now". So basically my ex husband can go around lying to me about what I can do and then I proceed with that and then throws these papers up in my face along with the constant cop calling. My oldest son cried when we left my moms house, I had never seen him act like that before. I had to beg to let them ride with me to our house because my ex husband wanted to take them now. We needed to go back so we could get their things.
We were followed by the police and I had 30 minutes to get them packed and ready to go. I was frantic, running around, trying to remember everything 3 little boys needed. I forgot a ton of stuff. Despite what everyone may say I was not, I repeat was not wanting my ex husband to not have the kids for the summer. I just wanted my oldest son to have his testing. I had to reschedule for August 18th.
It was very hard for me to say goodbye. My oldest started crying again, I had never seen him act like that. My youngest stayed at the edge of the steps, he didn't want to leave. After they were gone an officer stayed to talk to us and I thought it was because he was being nice, but after reading the report it was because my ex husband requested a police escort to I69 and the officer that stayed with us was to make sure we didn't leave after them. Seriously, what do these people think I'm capable of? I have never been arrested, or have had any kind of ticket. My background is in the medical field where I help people recover from surgeries etc. I am not a criminal! Why am I being treated like one?
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
I'm Not Meeting Half Way!!!
So after the conversation I had with my ex husband this past Sunday and explaining to him why I wouldn't meet half way on the 16th, he obviously didn't listen to one thing I said. I believe I won't be there on the 16th is pretty straight forward. As I explained to him the Judge ordered I only had to meet half way if you were current in your child support payments and you are not, so I don't have to go half way. Doesn't sound like to me I was insinuating anything other than I won't be there on the 16th. So he began to text me on a phone I am borrowing and that person wasn't with me, he was in class. Here is the texts between my ex husband and my friend:
Ex Husband 7:03pm - Have the boys call me. I am in GA, and I am sending this to you. I will be in TN at 11:30AM as previosly stated.
Friends Phone 7:11pm - Can it be at ten, or will not accept the call.
Friends Phone 7:18pm - Are then coming on to IN or is that it for you?
Ex Husband 7:28pm - what do u mean will not except the call? r u kidding me? the hours are from 6-8, per court orders. y 10?
Ex Husband 7:28pm - WHAT R U TALKING ABOUT
Ex Husband 7:39pm - Are you not meeting with me tomorrow at 11:30AM in TN as previously stated per the court orders and per my visitation time. I will be there.
Ex Husband 7:40pm - If 10 is what it takes to talk with my kids, I will allow it this one time, however it will not continue on that schedule, as for they should be in bed by then.
Ex Husband 7:57pm - I'm waiting for a response. What are your plans? I asked you questions.
Ex Husband 8:19pm - ****(me), you need to communicate with me immediately regarding the children and the pick up and drop off. I will be in TN at 11:30AM tomorrow. Will see you then? I will not go any further than TN, absolutely not.
Friends Phone 8:48pm - It is *****(ex husband) I asking for 10 because that is when I will see *****(my oldest son).
Friends Phone 8:49pm - I have weld now so ttyl.
Ex Husband 9:08pm - thats cool man, weld class is great. I can handle 10. just make sure i talk to him the :)
Friends Phone 9:32pm - No prob.
Ex Husband 10:03pm - It's not 10:02 and still no call.
Ex Husband 10:03pm - It's now 10:03 and no call.
Friends Phone 10:04pm - I am my home rainy and crappy here.
Ex Husband 10:10pm - That is no excuse. Where are my children?
Friends Phone 10:12pm - With there mom, dude. Look can't drive any faster.
Ex Husband 10:13pm - In order for *********(me, using my givin name) and the kids to be at the PD on time in the morning, she needs to leave the house no later than 3:30AM to be there by 11:30AM.
Ex Husband 10:14pm - It's about an 8 1/2 hour drive.
Ex Husband 10:15pm - Well you said that you would have then call me at 10:00, it's now going on 10:15 and it's been 15 minutes of waiting for the call. This has been noted and I will be in TN at 11:30AM. Don't worry about having the kids call me now, they need to get sleep because they have to get up early in the morning.
Ex Husband 10:23pm - to meet me that is
Ex Husband 10:24pm - does ****(me) converse with your ex? this is ****s(me) responsibility not yours
Ex Husband 10:25pm - my kids! not yours, never
Ex Husband 10:25pm - y so involved
Ex Husband 10:26pm - this is not your deal
Ex Husband 10:28pm - 10:28 wheres my kids!
Friends Phone 10:31pm - Then stop texting be home in 5 min. So, shut up and relax
Ex Husband 10:32pm - i will not shut up! involved my children, where r they
Ex Husband 10:33pm - r u my kids still up
Friends Phone 10:33pm - My phone my rules. Don't piss me off.
Ex Husband 10:34pm - will u b there tomorrow?
Ex Husband 10:35pm - no! ****(me) SAID TO CALL! AS FAR AS I AM CONCERNED THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO SPEAK TO MY KIDS PER ****(me)
Friends Phone 10:36pm - Me no. I will be in class. I agree don't piss owner of phone.
And as soon as my friend came home from his class we called him at 10:36pm. He talked to his sons. He asked my oldest what time he would be getting up in the morning which bothered me because he always questions the children. He told them he would be seeing them tomorrow and picking them up to bring them back to his house for the summer visitation. Now I am not happy about this what so ever. Because as stated in the texts he said he wasn't going any further than TN but then tells our kids he's picking them up tomorrow after I told him this past Sunday I would not be there. Now I have to do damage control on my oldest. He is going to be completely heart broken and not understand a single thing. I'm thankful the youngest two have no clue what's going on or who "daddy" is.
I hurt for my children and I hate the choices I have made. They are paying for my sins and I wish I could change it, but I can't. Or can I?
Ex Husband 7:03pm - Have the boys call me. I am in GA, and I am sending this to you. I will be in TN at 11:30AM as previosly stated.
Friends Phone 7:11pm - Can it be at ten, or will not accept the call.
Friends Phone 7:18pm - Are then coming on to IN or is that it for you?
Ex Husband 7:28pm - what do u mean will not except the call? r u kidding me? the hours are from 6-8, per court orders. y 10?
Ex Husband 7:28pm - WHAT R U TALKING ABOUT
Ex Husband 7:39pm - Are you not meeting with me tomorrow at 11:30AM in TN as previously stated per the court orders and per my visitation time. I will be there.
Ex Husband 7:40pm - If 10 is what it takes to talk with my kids, I will allow it this one time, however it will not continue on that schedule, as for they should be in bed by then.
Ex Husband 7:57pm - I'm waiting for a response. What are your plans? I asked you questions.
Ex Husband 8:19pm - ****(me), you need to communicate with me immediately regarding the children and the pick up and drop off. I will be in TN at 11:30AM tomorrow. Will see you then? I will not go any further than TN, absolutely not.
Friends Phone 8:48pm - It is *****(ex husband) I asking for 10 because that is when I will see *****(my oldest son).
Friends Phone 8:49pm - I have weld now so ttyl.
Ex Husband 9:08pm - thats cool man, weld class is great. I can handle 10. just make sure i talk to him the :)
Friends Phone 9:32pm - No prob.
Ex Husband 10:03pm - It's not 10:02 and still no call.
Ex Husband 10:03pm - It's now 10:03 and no call.
Friends Phone 10:04pm - I am my home rainy and crappy here.
Ex Husband 10:10pm - That is no excuse. Where are my children?
Friends Phone 10:12pm - With there mom, dude. Look can't drive any faster.
Ex Husband 10:13pm - In order for *********(me, using my givin name) and the kids to be at the PD on time in the morning, she needs to leave the house no later than 3:30AM to be there by 11:30AM.
Ex Husband 10:14pm - It's about an 8 1/2 hour drive.
Ex Husband 10:15pm - Well you said that you would have then call me at 10:00, it's now going on 10:15 and it's been 15 minutes of waiting for the call. This has been noted and I will be in TN at 11:30AM. Don't worry about having the kids call me now, they need to get sleep because they have to get up early in the morning.
Ex Husband 10:23pm - to meet me that is
Ex Husband 10:24pm - does ****(me) converse with your ex? this is ****s(me) responsibility not yours
Ex Husband 10:25pm - my kids! not yours, never
Ex Husband 10:25pm - y so involved
Ex Husband 10:26pm - this is not your deal
Ex Husband 10:28pm - 10:28 wheres my kids!
Friends Phone 10:31pm - Then stop texting be home in 5 min. So, shut up and relax
Ex Husband 10:32pm - i will not shut up! involved my children, where r they
Ex Husband 10:33pm - r u my kids still up
Friends Phone 10:33pm - My phone my rules. Don't piss me off.
Ex Husband 10:34pm - will u b there tomorrow?
Ex Husband 10:35pm - no! ****(me) SAID TO CALL! AS FAR AS I AM CONCERNED THIS IS THE ONLY WAY TO SPEAK TO MY KIDS PER ****(me)
Friends Phone 10:36pm - Me no. I will be in class. I agree don't piss owner of phone.
And as soon as my friend came home from his class we called him at 10:36pm. He talked to his sons. He asked my oldest what time he would be getting up in the morning which bothered me because he always questions the children. He told them he would be seeing them tomorrow and picking them up to bring them back to his house for the summer visitation. Now I am not happy about this what so ever. Because as stated in the texts he said he wasn't going any further than TN but then tells our kids he's picking them up tomorrow after I told him this past Sunday I would not be there. Now I have to do damage control on my oldest. He is going to be completely heart broken and not understand a single thing. I'm thankful the youngest two have no clue what's going on or who "daddy" is.
I hurt for my children and I hate the choices I have made. They are paying for my sins and I wish I could change it, but I can't. Or can I?
Sunday, June 13, 2010
The Emails Keep Rolling...
I got this email yesterday morning at 4:24am:
"****, It has been a week since I have sent the below email, still yet again no response. I now will continue with the original plan that the FINAL JUDGEMENT HAS SET FOURTH. There has been no phone communication with you so what am I to think? I will proceed as planed for drop off and pick up on 6-16-2010 at the Chattanooga Police Department as prearranged Weeks ago."
This is the email he was referring to and sent to me again:
"WE NEED TO HAVE A PHONE CONVERSATION ABOUT NEXT WEEK. I AM ONCE AGAIN CONTACTING THE THERAPIST TO FIND OUT WHAT IS GOING ON. I WILL BE CALLING THE PLACE WHERE "***** TESTING" MIGHT BE DONE, TO GET THE APPROXIMATE DAY OF AND ENDING TIME. YOU DO KNOW THAT IF I AGREE TO THIS TESTING IT WILL BE A ONE TIME THING, THIS IS NOT CONSIDERED AN EMERGENCY TO HAVE THE VISITATION DATE CHANGED AS IT IS STATED IN THE PAPERS, BUT IF YOU DO NOT CALL ME I WILL ABIDE BY WHAT THE JUDGE HAS SIGNED.
I WILL UNBLOCK THE PHONE OF ***** BUT I AM TELLING YOU RIGHT NOW, HE IS NOT TO CALL ME, THE KIDS OR YOU MAY CALL EVEN THOUGHT THAT IS NOT THE NUMBER THE IS LISTED IN THE PAPERS, BUT THAT IS ANOTHER THING I AM CHECKING INTO.
SO CALL ME SO WE CAN TOUCH BASE TODAY. REGARDLESS I WILL BE IN TENNESSEE ON 6-16- TO COVER MY ASS."
Today I had a phone conversation with him, I decided it was time. The reason I do not respond to the emails is because my ex husband only hears what he wants to hear and then fabricates the rest to fit what story he would like to tell. Today I just let him talk I didn't have much to say other than I would not be meeting him half way. The Judge ordered that if he was not caught up on child support I did not have to meet half way so I'm not because he is behind. My ex husband doesn't care that his oldest child has problems and issues that he needs treatment for; for me this is an emergency. Besides I have the email where he tells me it can be done on the 19th.
Also for a little humor his fiance sends me a text saying that she should be involved because she is there step mom and their protector. Protector from what, who? She only met them once for less than 24 hours two years ago! I'm sorry that she is unable to have children and at the age of 40 she probably can't do anything about it either. Hope she enjoys being with a 27 year old boy.
Now I'm just waiting for another thing to hit the fan...
"****, It has been a week since I have sent the below email, still yet again no response. I now will continue with the original plan that the FINAL JUDGEMENT HAS SET FOURTH. There has been no phone communication with you so what am I to think? I will proceed as planed for drop off and pick up on 6-16-2010 at the Chattanooga Police Department as prearranged Weeks ago."
This is the email he was referring to and sent to me again:
"WE NEED TO HAVE A PHONE CONVERSATION ABOUT NEXT WEEK. I AM ONCE AGAIN CONTACTING THE THERAPIST TO FIND OUT WHAT IS GOING ON. I WILL BE CALLING THE PLACE WHERE "***** TESTING" MIGHT BE DONE, TO GET THE APPROXIMATE DAY OF AND ENDING TIME. YOU DO KNOW THAT IF I AGREE TO THIS TESTING IT WILL BE A ONE TIME THING, THIS IS NOT CONSIDERED AN EMERGENCY TO HAVE THE VISITATION DATE CHANGED AS IT IS STATED IN THE PAPERS, BUT IF YOU DO NOT CALL ME I WILL ABIDE BY WHAT THE JUDGE HAS SIGNED.
I WILL UNBLOCK THE PHONE OF ***** BUT I AM TELLING YOU RIGHT NOW, HE IS NOT TO CALL ME, THE KIDS OR YOU MAY CALL EVEN THOUGHT THAT IS NOT THE NUMBER THE IS LISTED IN THE PAPERS, BUT THAT IS ANOTHER THING I AM CHECKING INTO.
SO CALL ME SO WE CAN TOUCH BASE TODAY. REGARDLESS I WILL BE IN TENNESSEE ON 6-16- TO COVER MY ASS."
Today I had a phone conversation with him, I decided it was time. The reason I do not respond to the emails is because my ex husband only hears what he wants to hear and then fabricates the rest to fit what story he would like to tell. Today I just let him talk I didn't have much to say other than I would not be meeting him half way. The Judge ordered that if he was not caught up on child support I did not have to meet half way so I'm not because he is behind. My ex husband doesn't care that his oldest child has problems and issues that he needs treatment for; for me this is an emergency. Besides I have the email where he tells me it can be done on the 19th.
Also for a little humor his fiance sends me a text saying that she should be involved because she is there step mom and their protector. Protector from what, who? She only met them once for less than 24 hours two years ago! I'm sorry that she is unable to have children and at the age of 40 she probably can't do anything about it either. Hope she enjoys being with a 27 year old boy.
Now I'm just waiting for another thing to hit the fan...
Saturday, June 12, 2010
Houston We Have a Problem AGAIN...
The next and current problem I have is summer visitation. As talked about in the previous blogs my oldest son has some issues his pediatrician noticed at his 6 year check up. He said that my son needs to be seen by a neuropsychologist. I all ready had to reschedule the first appointment per the magistrate in Florida from April of 2010 to May of 2010. At the appointment in May his Doctor ordered 4 hours of testing that is costing me $200 because insurance doesn't pay for it.
Here is the problem the soonest I could get him in is on the 18th of June which is two days into my ex husbands visitation for the summer. I keep trying to convince him to let me have the kids until then so our oldest son can be tested. He wants me to put it off until he gets back which is a week before school starts. I don't want to wait until then because if he has problems he needs to have treatments.
I have an email where he tells me I can meet him half way on the 19th and then three hours later he changes it to the 16th. I have an email from him sent a few weeks ago where he says he has no problem with our son being testing, but he's trying to stop it for some reason. He has called the Doctor to have it switched to someone in Florida, he has tried to reschedule it behind my back at a later time. Really I can't wait until a week before school to do this it needs to be done now. I keep explaining to him that his old teacher had concerns all throughout the school year and wanted to know what was going on with him so she could place him with the proper teacher. If I found out now what is going on with him they can do that, but they can't change his teacher a week before school starts.
So the problem now isn't just the testing, well that's the problem for me, the problem for him is me meeting him half way in Tennessee. As it states at least three different places in the divorce papers I am suppose to meet half way if he is caught up on child support, and he is not. I get emails daily saying I will meet him half way as per the divorce papers and if I don't I will be in contempt of court. I've gotten 5 emails in the last week which I have not responded to and I'm afraid to. I get told this is where I'm suppose to meet at what time and not once has he asked me what I can do or what would work for me. How is this all mutual? How do I stop him from bullying me? I am so beat down now...
More to come I promise next blog will be an email that he sends me; something current to read with my comments. Really I think the best way to understand him is to just read what he says, it shows more than I can describe. Thanks for read and putting up with my ranting and raving.
Here is the problem the soonest I could get him in is on the 18th of June which is two days into my ex husbands visitation for the summer. I keep trying to convince him to let me have the kids until then so our oldest son can be tested. He wants me to put it off until he gets back which is a week before school starts. I don't want to wait until then because if he has problems he needs to have treatments.
I have an email where he tells me I can meet him half way on the 19th and then three hours later he changes it to the 16th. I have an email from him sent a few weeks ago where he says he has no problem with our son being testing, but he's trying to stop it for some reason. He has called the Doctor to have it switched to someone in Florida, he has tried to reschedule it behind my back at a later time. Really I can't wait until a week before school to do this it needs to be done now. I keep explaining to him that his old teacher had concerns all throughout the school year and wanted to know what was going on with him so she could place him with the proper teacher. If I found out now what is going on with him they can do that, but they can't change his teacher a week before school starts.
So the problem now isn't just the testing, well that's the problem for me, the problem for him is me meeting him half way in Tennessee. As it states at least three different places in the divorce papers I am suppose to meet half way if he is caught up on child support, and he is not. I get emails daily saying I will meet him half way as per the divorce papers and if I don't I will be in contempt of court. I've gotten 5 emails in the last week which I have not responded to and I'm afraid to. I get told this is where I'm suppose to meet at what time and not once has he asked me what I can do or what would work for me. How is this all mutual? How do I stop him from bullying me? I am so beat down now...
More to come I promise next blog will be an email that he sends me; something current to read with my comments. Really I think the best way to understand him is to just read what he says, it shows more than I can describe. Thanks for read and putting up with my ranting and raving.
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